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Choosing a Song for the First Dance at Your Wedding

By: Joanne Walker BA (hons) - Updated: 10 Jan 2013 | comments*Discuss
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When you decide to get married, choosing a first song is not likely to be high up on the list of priorities. But while you are busy organising the cake, the reception, the wines and the guest list, this tiny, but significant detail may pass you by. Although the first dance is a mere three or four minutes of the whole of your wedding, it's importance and your guests' awareness of it shouldn't be underestimated. In fact, it is one of those tiny details which will linger in the minds of all of your guests and yourselves long after the honeymoon tan has faded and the cake has been eaten.

Your Song

Most couples will have a song which they think of as their song. This can be for any number of reasons. It could be as simple as the song which was playing when you first kissed. It could be extremely complex, with a multitude of reasons for being your song. But the one thing to bear in mind when choosing that song for your first dance is whether or not it is suitable. It may be a beautiful song but have swear words in it. You may not mind this - but how will your parents and grandparents feel? And what about when you are showing it to your children in years to come? Or it may be entirely yours but simply not a love song - then you have to think about the fact that you may not want your first dance to something which no-one else realises the resonance of.

Dancing to Your Song

A key factor to bear in mind when you choose the first dance song, whether you have a song of your own or not, is if you can dance to it. Most couples who are getting married will not have too much dancing experience between them so it is best to choose a song which will not look too odd if you simply shuffle around the floor to. Time of your Life may be a fantastically romantic song, but how will you feel if your first dance is compared to THAT dance from Dirty Dancing? Equally, it is not a good idea to have something too fast or you may end up tripping over your own feet while trying to keep up.

Remembered in Years to Come

Whatever dance you choose for your first dance, remember that it is something which will be with you for a long time, especially if you have it videoed. You do not want to look back in a few years and regret the choices which you made. Therefore, it is wise to stay away from anything too modern - you do not want to be in the situation where your children roll their eyes at you. But, you may well want to choose something that is unique to you - you don't want to hear the same song at every wedding you go to for five years. Popular songs do tend to lose some of their feeling on the fourth or fifth go. Choose a beautiful song which reflects both your feelings for one another and also your level of dancing ability - and you will not go wrong.

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